The Covert Narcissistic Male: Who They Are & How To Beat Them

The Covert Narcissistic Male: Who They Are & How To Beat Them

The Covert Narcissistic Male: Who They Are & How To Beat Them

Males that feel emasculated by MEN they perceive better than them, will take out their frustration on WOMEN whom they feel will never like them, who may never love them, or who may leave them.

These types of guys, and there are LEGIONS of them, are LOSERS. And I say this unapologetically.

The covert narcissistic insecure male is one of the most passive-aggressive people you will come across.

And before you think I am on this “Men are Dogs,” NONSENSE…NO, I AM NOT. 


It’s men who do the most dangerous jobs on this planet. It is men that fight in wars to bring freedom. And it is MEN that protects the weak and oppressed.

Now…women are just as brave as MEN. I am not suggesting bravery is a MAN’S attribute…because it is not.

But there is a type of BEAUTY and a sense of spirit that is unique in MASCULINITY, to which only MEN can ever master.

Toxic masculinity is a trait that can be attributed to the insecure covert narcissistic male.

Because they lack the overall confidence that MEN have they will then seek to try and be superior to these MEN by trying to be smarter than them.

But smart, in this case, does not always mean to be intelligent. It can be cunning and manipulative.

They have no qualms in lying and cheating to get ahead in life because, to them, life has cheated them.

In their inferior way of thinking and perceiving themselves, they think if they were taller, stronger, bigger (use your imagination here), that life would be so much better for them.

They feel like they can never measure up, and as a result, these people will do some of the nastiest things you can think of.

Because they cannot scale to the heights that other men have climbed, they will then, to protect their fragile egos, TEAR DOWN others around them.

“I can’t get to the level you are at, but I can sure as heck can bring you down to my level. Now we will be…EQUAL.”

They are such losers.

They hate women because they know that if they were in a relationship with them that maybe the woman wouldn’t be impressed with them and would leave them.

And worst, they LOATHE a woman who has confidence. Who radiates maturity, confidence, and self-love.

To them, nothing hurts their fragile little egos more than but to see a woman who loves herself.

And to see a man who achieves so much in life, despite the uphill battles they must climb, is CRUSHING TO THEM.

Our success and happiness in life is a slap in the face to them. They are forced to then reflect on themselves, which they do not want to do.

To these LOSERS, this is the ultimate smack in the face to see others are happy and achieving their dreams while they live a nightmare JUST BEING THEM.

In this article, I will explain the antics of these lesser males and explain how you can defeat them.

NoteGaslighting is a favorite tactic of narcissists to use on their victims. Download my FREE eBook “Am I Being Gaslit” to better understand their sneaky tactics.

6 thoughts on “The Covert Narcissistic Male: Who They Are & How To Beat Them

  1. This helped me alot
    I already moved on and I’m happy but idk why imstill interested in understanding these crazy humans.
    Probably to avoid them

    1. I think it is because it is so hard to imagine that someone can be as stupid and self-defeating as they are. They end up with nothing and it basically all comes down to their own behaviour: cheating, lying, triangulation, gaslighting, the silent treatment, stonewalling and endless manipulation so that they can gain the upper hand over you. Their mantra is not love it is power and control. Sad. There is heaps of information on Quora about narcs. It is interesting to learn about what makes them tick and it’s important to learn how to spot one quickly so you can kick them to the curb and move on with your (more important) life.

  2. Your words of wisdom are spot on. I recently divorced one of these men. It took me a lot of research and learning about what makes them tick, that I was able to get a couple steps ahead of him and can now predict his every move, I HAD to get to that point for my kid’s sake. I am their rock and need to help them understand what/who their Father really is. It’s been a rough road for all of us, for sure, but knowledge is power. The divorce took 2 years (together for 23yrs.) and now I deal with anger more than anything else. Anger at the pain my kid’s have had to endure, having wasted so much time, effort, money, The destruction he caused our family is going to take years to recover from. I wish I had the answers on how to deal with the anger…

  3. Narcissists’s live a very miserable existence. It’s truly sad and heartbreaking to watch someone live a life so empty and miserable. I’m not advocating for them, believe me, their behavior is unacceptable. I’m stuck with one and have been with him almost 10 years. Mothers day was last Sunday and for no reason I can see, he took my holiday away from me and i got nothing. It’s a miserable existence in this house and i just want out but for now i cant. I dont show him empathy and it is very difficult to have it at all anymore. All I can say is they dont even know why they lash out, their minds are broken and it all comes from when they were children. I dont know what happened in his life to make him this way, it is the driving force behind who he is. I hate who he is but honestly it makes me sad that he is a product of what someone else created. The narc never learns to self regulate their emotions which cripples their emotional growth leaving them the equivalent of a toddler emotionally. I am grateful that I dont have the weights he carry’s on my shoulder’s. I cant imagine worrying about what everyone thinks of me, strangers and all. I probably wont have the popular post award here but I felt like it was worth leaving my thoughts. Everyone wants to hate and bash the narcs who’ve hurt them, I know how it feels bc I have one of my own. Again I’m not saying their actions or treatment is acceptable by any means, we all know how abusive and devastating they are to our mental health. It is when I sit back and watch him from an outside perspective I can see his existence is nothing but pain and misery. Very sad deal for all involved. Every person in life has a classroom throughout life, it’s how we learn and it’s how we change. I am not saying anyone deserves to be here, I’m just saying we all ended up in this classroom for a reason. It has changed me from being a doormat to people into a strong person. And I do mean strong. I wore my heart on my sleeve and I dont anymore. I can choose to harbor resentment and pity myself for ending up in this experience but then the narc still gets what he wants. I chose to look at it as a learning experience and the things I’ve learned aren’t bad, they were neccessary. I survived the madness and further more I walk with my head high, I am a good person and I will never be defeated by anyone. I cant say the same for the narcissist, they will live in pure hell until they die and probably after, and it’s all because of someone else damaging them as children. I dont want to make anyone mad, so please dont jump all over me, I just hope to maybe turn some perspectives around and help you see that good still comes out of it in one way or another. We are lucky bc we get to move forward, the narc doesn’t. Thank you, and I’m sorry if I offend anyone.

    1. Thank you for your comment.

      And you are a very STRONG and GOOD person, from what I can gather from this post.

      I do agree with you on many things you brought up.

      Especially the “life as a classroom” analogy.

      I to say the same thing.

      Life places us into a classroom and demands for us to take a test to which we are WHOLLY unprepared for.

      Yes, something happened to the narc as children that hurt them, damaged them, broken them.

      It doesn’t make it right what they did, but I can understand.

      Still, I don’t believe we need to be their heroes or punching bags.

      It’s a shame that they cannot regulate their emotions. But I don’t think we need to regulate their emotions either.

      This, to me, is a huge waste of time.

      I have tried doing that with many of them, and the games with them NEVER END.

      I truly thank you for your comment. You made very poignant comments that I wholly agree with.

      Take care and stay safe 🙂

    2. From personal experience, consider this. Think about your reasons for hangIng in there. Do you feel sorry for him? Does the empath in you make you choose his feelings over your own? Are you sacrificing your happiness for his? Are you being a hero for sticking it out? Are you congratulating yourself for being the hero? Have you considered what this is costing your children? Or are you the martyr? You know that martyrs always die in the end, right?

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