This is not an easy question, “Can Narcissist Change With Tough Love”, to answer. It is not an easy question to answer because of some philosophical perspective of love.
I often heard it said, while growing up, “we all have to make a living in life.” To me, I never liked this way of thinking. I never liked having to learn how to survive a toxic boss. All I ever wanted to do is just make a living without the cost of having to deal with toxic bosses and toxic co-workers.
Flying monkeys have no minds of their own. They are in every sense of the word drones, zombies, lackeys, and FOOLS AT THE HIGHEST CALIBER.
Flying monkeys, for those who may not be familiar with the name/ or term, are people who basically do the bidding of the narcissist.
The title above “Narcissists Megalomaniac Are Parasites And We Are The Host” is not meant to be a verbal insult against narcissists. But instead an objective observational comment. Narcs are in every sense of the word what you would call…a parasite. And empaths are the hosts. What I find very interesting in my research about …
For many people, the idea of walking away from a narcissistic relationship can feel very much like a defeat. It can feel like we are letting people walk all over us. It is natural when we have been wronged to want to seek justice. It is natural for us to want to get revenge.
PTSD from narcissistic partners is real. Living with a narcissistic person is like living in a war. Constantly having to watch your every step so as not to make that partner “blow up”.
It can be one of the hardest challenges we will ever face in our lives; moving on. Moving on from an event that took so much of our time, our energy, our hopes, and dreams, but most importantly…ourselves.
For those of us who have been in a relationship with a narcissist, it is not uncommon for many of us to feel like we were nothing. We can feel like we were expendable.
How to heal after a narcissistic relationship can seem like it is an endeavor that will never happen. Quite often when we leave a narc (either by being discarded or of our own volition) we feel confused.
When a narcissist finds someone new, for many it can feel like we weren’t good enough. We can feel like our world is coming around us. And we can feel like we just want to be back in their lives because then our validation and worth will be back again.