- 1 Abusive Dating Relationship – 4 Warning Signs
Abusive Dating Relationship – 4 Warning Signs
Here are a few things you should watch out for when you first start dating someone.
They aren’t all signs of abuse necessarily, but they are warning signs of someone who has some pretty powerful feelings of insecurity which often leads to abuse:
1 – Watch for signs that your date likes to be in control.
A little bit of control is no problem, but if you’re out with a man who has to order for you or otherwise take away your voice, you should be concerned.
2 – How does your date treat people around them?
A nice person will be nice to everyone, even the waiter who screwed up their order. If your date flies off the handle over little things, you should probably take a step back.
3 – Does your date make eye contact with you, or are they always looking around the room?
Not being able to look you in the eye is not a great sign. It could mean that they are shy, but it could also mean (if coupled with other things) that they are bored, insensitive, or scoping out other people, none of which is a good sign if you are on a first or second date.
4 – If your date can’t laugh at themselves, it’s yet another sign of someone insecure.
Look, no one likes to look foolish or be laughed at. It takes a person who is very comfortable in their skin to accept this type of situation gracefully.
Still, if your date seems to go over the top, then they may have not only self-esteem issues but anger management issues as well… that’s a bad combination.
To avoid getting into an abusive dating situation, avoid the temptation of putting your data on a pedestal. Try to see them for who they are, flaws and all. That way, you’ll be less likely to be taken off guard, and if the two of you do hit it off, you’ll know that you love who they are and not just who you want them to be.