7 Ways On How To Crush A Narcissist & To Do So Without Being A Monster

7 Ways On How To Crush A Narcissist & To Do So Without Being A Monster

How To Crush A Narcissist

Crushing a narcissist, hurting them, after all the nonsense they put us through, can be an obsessive thought that plays across our mind — every minute, of every hour, of every day!

Revenge can be the dominating thought that occupies much of our minds!

And it is very reasonable as to why we would feel that way.

Narcissists take so much from so many of us.

Our happiness, dreams, goals, family, friends, ourselves, and our time!

Narcissists are takers.

They are parasites.

They are bottomless dark pits!

But most of all, these people are some of the most fragile and emotionally weak people you will ever come across in life.

In this article, I will outline 7 ways to crush your narcissist in your life and do so without being a monster.

7 Ways On How To Crush A Narcissist & To Do So Without Being A Monster

1. No Contact: How To Crush A Narcissist

How To Crush A Narcissist

Now, those of you who have some level of understanding and knowledge about the narcissist know very well that many of us who have left the narc and have healed, preach the good gospel of NO CONTACT!

No Contact is, without a doubt, one of the best ways to crush these LOSER narcissists!


Because as I mentioned, narcissists are like parasites. They are energy vampires.

By REMOVING yourself from their lives, they will have NO ONE to get their sustenance from.

And like the melodramatic CLOWNS they are, they will go batsh*t insane because they have no one to put up with their BS.

No Contact does many things to the narcissists, such as:

  • Shows them they have no control over you and that YOU have control over YOUR LIFE. And to these CLOWNS who have a strong desire to control, you TAKING yourself from them is like a parent taking a toy from a child who acts up!
  • Forces them to be by themselves. These people have NO LOVE for themselves. When you take yourself away from these people, they are forced to be with themselves. And because they hate themselves so much, they will usually drink themselves silly, use illegal drugs, binge watch porn, or engage in acts that will be life-threatening! They cannot stand being by themselves.
  • Shows them how worthless they are. By moving on and going no contact, you show them that they are NOT WORTH chasing after. And for people who want attention and need validation, this is a massive blow to their small little egos!

2. Be Happy

How To Crush A Narcissist

Nothing crushes these losers more than but for us to simply be happy. All the nonsense that they put us through is to strip us of our happiness.

To these CLOWNS, these JOKERS, seeing others suffer and damaged because of them, is orgasmic.

They legit get off by hurting other people and seeing them sad.

By you/us being happy, and we may have to force ourselves initially, what we reveal to these CLOWNS is that: “YOU ARE NOTHING SPECIAL. I CAN LIVE MY LIFE HAPPILY AND DO SO WITHOUT YOU IN IT!!!”

3. Create New Relationships: How To Crush A Narcissist

How To Crush A Narcissist

Now, this does not need to be romantic, although that would be the stake in these energy vampire’s hearts.

By creating new relationships and building bonds with other people, what you do to the narcissist is show them that YOU ARE VALUABLE.

They work so hard to make us feel like we are worthless — and they do this because that is the only way to keep us in their WORTHLESS LIVES.

I wrote an article titled “This Is Why The Narcissist Devalues You,” and I used an analogy of how they are like pawnshop owners, and we are valuable items.

If they think we will feel less about ourselves, then we will stay with them. By creating new relationships, we show them that: “YES! WE ARE A CATCH! And THEY MISSED OUT!”

Friends are like garlic. Lovers are like stakes. Creating a loving family will be the sunlight that vanquished these dark souls!

Need a place to meet up with other people who have been through what you have been through?

Check out this article “The Top 10 Largest Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Groups“!

You are NOT ALONE!

4. Accomplish Your Goals

How To Crush A Narcissist
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Nothing reminds a loser that they are a loser than but to see someone they worked so hard to make fail…SUCCEED.

Let me say that again.

Nothing reminds a loser that they are a loser than but to see someone they worked so hard to make fail…SUCCEED.

Accomplish your goals.



You do not want to meet your dreams on your death bed and have them look at you with anger and resentment for letting them die when they came to you to give them life.

Yes! I am paraphrasing from Les Brown!

5. Accept The Smear Campaign: How To Crush A Narcissist

How To Crush A Narcissist

Yes, you have read this, right!


Accept that you will lose people who may have been friends because of the narc’s smear campaign.

I know this seems absurd, and it will hurt.

But if people knew you and were your friends, they would have never believed the narcissist lies about you.

Be willing to burn all those bridges and start focusing on all the new bridges you will build with others.

The smear campaign is all to bring you back into their insanity.


6. Stop Beating Yourself

How To Crush A Narcissist

By hating yourself for putting up with their nonsense and their INSANE antics, what you do, when you hate yourself, is the narcissist’s job.

You allow them to continue to hurt you long after they have left!

Do not let these clowns infect your heart and psyche any longer.

You/ we are only human, and we rarely ever learn about these demons in human skin!

Had you known better; you would have done better.

I promise you; you are not the only one to have lost yourself by trying to make them happy!

Love yourself and rediscover who you are…this will crush the narc delusion that they ever meant the world to you!

7. Forgive Them Without The Apology

How To Crush A Narcissist

The last thing, and perhaps the most powerful way to crush these clowns (maybe more so than No Contact), is to forgive them without ever receiving or NEEDING the apology!

Understand this; they know exactly what they did! And they know that saying sorry would heal us in ways that therapy ever could.

They are holding your therapy in their hands.

By forgiving without them ever saying sorry, you take your healing away from them.

And for people who want you to continue to think about them and need them, this is a huge crush!

You are their world…their world in their hands.

And by you taking yourself from their hands, YOU TAKE EVERYTHING FROM THEM.

Forgive them for yourself, not for them, and you will win on a massive level!

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Struggling With C-PTSD?

I often say that living with a narcissist is like living in a war zone! This comparison may very well seem hyperbolic, but research has shown that living around narcissists can have the same effects on a person’s mind as people living in a war zone!

I wrote an article describing the “10+ Mental Illnesses Caused By Staying With Narcissists“.

These people are monsters, plain and simple.

If you are struggling with emotional flashbacks, dealing with mental and emotional battles that NO ONE but yourself seems to see and feel, and if you find it hard to get out of bed every day, you may be dealing with C-PTSD.

As great as support groups may be, or as profound as articles can be, they are no substitute for professional help. 

Sometimes the best way to heal and move forward is with therapy.

Speaking with someone and getting the hurt off your chest is a great way to unload.

Online Therapy is a site that offers visitors the chance to speak with professional therapists who will be able to help you get through your emotional and psychological battles.

If you sign up with my link, you can get 20% off your first month’s session.

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