7 Things Narcissists Do When You Go No Contact
When one person ends a relationship, it is common for the other person to feel relief.
But for some people, the other person might still be in their head, or they might do things that make the other person feel bad.
People who are narcissists often do these things when someone goes no contact with them.7 Things Narcissists Do When You Go No Contact
1 – Denial & harassment
When you go no contact with a narcissist, they may react in several ways. Some common reactions are denial, rage, and harassment.
Denial is when the narcissist refuses to believe that you’ve left them. They may claim that you’re lying or that there’s something wrong with you that made you go. They may try to convince you to come back or even threaten or bribe you.
Rage is when the narcissist reacts angrily to being ignored. They may scream, curse, or throw things (act like a kidult). They may also try to hurt or manipulate you emotionally.
Harassment can take many forms. The narcissist may call or text incessantly, show up at your house or job uninvited, or try to ruin your reputation online or in person.
2 – Desperation
If you’re considering going no contact with a narcissist, there are some things you can expect them to do.
First, they’ll start bombarding you with texts, emails, and phone calls. This is their way of keeping you in their grip and maintaining control over you.
Second, they may try to make you feel guilty or convince you that you’re the wrong one. They’ll tell you that if you leave them, you’ll be the one who’s sorry.
Third, they may start stalking or harassing you. They may show up at your work or home uninvited or even call your family and friends to try and get information about you.
Fourth, they may try to gaslight you into thinking that what’s happening is all in your head and that there’s no way they could be doing anything wrong.
3 – Violent anger
Narcissists do many things when you have no contact, but the main thing is they become furious.
They may try to gaslight you or make you feel like you’re the bad one, but don’t be fooled.
They’re just trying to control you and stay in your life.
If you’ve decided enough is enough and go no contact, here are some things to expect from your narcissist:
- Expect them to lash out and become very angry. This may include verbal attacks, stalking, or even physical violence.
- They may try to guilt trip you or make you feel like you’re the one who’s causing all the problems. Remember, it’s not your fault!
- The narcissist may start spreading rumors about you or trying to turn other people against you. Don’t let them get to you – stick to your guns!
4 – Self-victimization
There are some things narcissists do when you go no contact that you might not expect.
For one, they may try to make you feel guilty for leaving them. They may act like they’re the victim and you’re bad for abandoning them.
They may also stalk you or harass you in an attempt to get your attention. They may even try to turn other people against you.
So, if you’re considering avoiding contact with a narcissist, be prepared for these behaviors and know their attempts to manipulate you into returning to them.
5 – Manipulation and gaslighting
Once you’ve decided to go no contact with a narcissist, they may start to do some things to try and manipulate you back into their lives.
They may act like they’re changing, but this is usually just a ploy to get you to forgive them and come back.
They may also try and gaslight you, making you question your decision and whether or not it was the right thing to do.
Here are some of the things narcissists do when you go no contact:
- They’ll suddenly become very apologetic and claim that they want to change.
- They’ll act like they understand why you left and even agree with your decision.
- They’ll start showering you with affection and attention, hoping it will make you change your mind.
6 – They may find someone else
Going no contact with a narcissist can be one of the best decisions you’ll ever make in your life. It can be tough, but it’s well worth it.
Narcissists will do everything they can to keep you in their lives. They may even find someone else to fill the role you once played.
Don’t let them get to you. Stay strong and focused on yourself. You’re worth it!
7 – They may give you no contact (Which is a blessing)
In their deluded minds, they will believe that if they give us the No Contact treatment, we will come chasing after them.
Let them think that way.
Let them think that way.
When you go no contact with a narcissist, they may react in several ways.
Some may try to hoover you back in, while others may resort to manipulative tactics or even violence.
Being prepared for these reactions and having a solid support system is essential.
Remember, you are taking this step for your safety and well-being.