5 Relationship Red Flags To Look Out For
Being in a relationship for many people is the acme of achievement for their lives — and there is NOTHING WRONG with that. We get one chance at life and I do believe it is important that we live this one life we have as HAPPILY as we can.
Having someone in our life who makes our lives feeling worthwhile is a GIFT that we should all look for.
Having someone we can confide with, laugh with, and grow with is a beautiful thing to have.
But it is very important to learn how not to be blinded by love and to NOT ignore the red flags.
Red flags are always there, but love has a funny way of blinding us to them.
In this article, I want to outline 5 relationship red flags that you should look out for
5 Relationship Red Flags To Look Out For
1 – Relationship Without Trust
Trust, as the saying goes, “is hard to build, but easy to destroy.”
With toxic partners (they don’t always have to be narcissist) they want you to trust every word (lie) they say, but they want to be open to scrutinizing you.
“Where did you go?”
“What were you talking about with that person?”
“How long are you going to be out with your friends? What are you guys doing? I need to know.”
These may seem like questions of concern, but understand this is how toxic people talk out both sides of their mouths.
It may appear to be like they caring about your safety — but it is just their sneaky little way to see if you are cheating on them or going to leave them.
2 – Relationship Abuse
Abuse does not always have to be physical. Many people are unaware of the different forms of abuse out there. And this is one reason why people stay in toxic narcissistic relationships for so long.
Many of us have been so thoroughly conditioned to believe that abuse means a black eye that we stay with a psychological and emotional abuser for months, years, and even decades.
If someone is always bringing you down with rude remarks or trying to make you THINK and BELIEVE you are a bad guy (gaslighting) when you know you aren’t, you are clearly dealing with someone who just wants you around so they can hurt.
Do not be ANYONE’S punching bag.
3 – Jealousy: Jealousy Is NOT A SIGN OF LOVE…IT IS A DISORDER
Great relationship advice here…a partner who is jealous is not a partner you want to be with.
This idea that “I act jealous because I love you,” is a gaslighting technique that people use to try and keep a person in their life.
Now, yes, there are people, many people, who may exhibit jealousy in a relationship. But that is NOT HEALTHY and ore times, you push the person you love away because NO ONE LIKES THAT BEHAVIOR.
Jealousy is an ugly thing to have and it is a “relationship insecurity” that needs to be squashed!
4 – Always Finding Fault
A relationship is all about UPLIFTING one another. It is NOT about tearing each other down!
If your partner is constantly devaluing you, then this is someone you DO NOT NEED IN YOUR LIFE.
5 – No Respect For Boundaries ~ Nasty Signs
Lastly, someone who cannot respect your boundaries needs to go. As an adult, you/ we should know how to respect others boundaries and we should also know our own boundaries.
If the partner you are with fails to respect your boundaries this is when relationship is over!
Relationship Red Flags
Struggling With C-PTSD?
I often say that living with a narcissist is like living in a war zone! This comparison may very well seem hyperbolic, but research has shown that living around narcissists can have the same effects on a person’s mind as people living in a war zone!
I wrote an article describing the “10+ Mental Illnesses Caused By Staying With Narcissists“.
These people are monsters, plain and simple.
If you are struggling with emotional flashbacks, dealing with mental and emotional battles that NO ONE but yourself seems to see and feel, and if you find it hard to get out of bed every day, you may be dealing with C-PTSD.
As great as support groups may be, or as profound as articles can be, they are no substitute for professional help.
Sometimes the best way to heal and move forward is with therapy.
Speaking with someone and getting the hurt off your chest is a great way to unload.
Online Therapy is a site that offers visitors the chance to speak with professional therapists who will be able to help you get through your emotional and psychological battles.
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