Don’t “at me”. DO NOT “AT ME” about “ghosting” is so mean. I guess allowing a narcissist to continue to mess up your life and the lives of GOOD PEOPLE is the right thing to do. Ghosting is without a doubt one of the best ways to get back at your narcissists.
I met him when I was 14, just as my mom was relapsing and we were going back into foster care; I was extremely vulnerable and looking to be loved. At the time, I thought he was the nicest guy I ever met. We started out as friends then began dating the night before homecoming.
Depression is a NIGHTMARE. Dealing with depression can be like a battle that seems like it will never end. And this is especially true for people who have just been discarded by a narcissist. Narcissists know how to make people feel like the absolute worst.
Hating the narcissist who has wormed and eeled their ways into our lives can be a punishment unto itself. The hatred we feel for them not only makes them HAPPY; it also hurts us. This simple hack will help you stop hating your narcissist.
Eric Fromm, the German psychoanalyst, and psychologist wrote a book titled “The Art Of Love”. In his book, he breaks down the different types of love that the human-animal can experience.
It is not uncommon for people who have been discarded or used by their narcissist to fall into a state of feeling worthless. To combat this newfound feeling of worthlessness and depression many people look to alcohol. But know this…alcohol doesn’t cure your depression.
When I started seeing a therapist, she asked me, “You don’t know what creepy is, do you?” I remember kind of looking at her in this quizzical way because I did not know what she was getting at. However, upon giving the query a little bit of consideration, it had dawned on me that I had spent my whole life marveling at others when they would say someone was creepy or weird or “off.”
I gave unconditional love, I boosted his ego, gave him ridiculous amounts of praise, respect, accolades. I made every tiny accomplishment a monumental congratulation. I took care of his parents, took care of his dying brother, I drove him to work and picked him up (23 miles, 45-70 minutes one way) in traffic, for almost 3 years, because he lost his driving privilege. Note: I worked seven minutes from our home.
In the Narcissists Delusional Grand Deception/Mask of Perfection mind, they CAN DO NO WRONG. Every single one of them truly believes they are the best and perfect. This delusional high lasts indefinitely; as long as they have no one who doubts this.
If TV and Hollywood have taught us anything, it is this. TRUE LOVE CONQUERS ALL. Narcissistic people can change and be committed to their victims…um, lovers. All they need is a good leash to keep us forever linked in their hands. Um…I mean a good reason to stay. So in this article, I will explain how you can make your narcissist stay committed to you.
