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Stop Apologizing: I Challenge You To Be Unapologetically You


I made a vow to myself 8 years ago…TO NEVER…NEVER…say “I’m S***y” to people because of their perception of me.

I made a vow to myself to NEVER feel regretful because someone misunderstood my meaning, my verbiage, or my tone.

I made a vow to myself to be UNAPOLOGETICALLY ME — and if who I am hurts people’s feelings…SO BE IT!

Now, I know this may very well come off as narcissistic. This word, “narcissistic” seems to be thrown around there quite a lot nowadays.

But I genuinely believe that apologizing to others’ perception of you is a self-esteem killer.

And I KNOW this from personal experience!

Note: I was published in a book! Check out “Empathic Warriors Survival Stories : Not Your Ordinary Empath

Stop Apologizing: I Challenge You To Be Unapologetically You

Stop Apologizing
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I grew up with a parent who had a personality disorder and would see EVERY ACTION I DID as an attack against them.

I would apologize and cry my whole d*mn childhood and I would genuinely believe I was a bad kid.

This feeling of being bad would be embedded in my psyche throughout my childhood and teenage years — and I would feel responsible for the wrongdoings of others, even though I had nothing to do with it.

(It was only in the noon of my 20s that I knew something was wrong with me; psychologically speaking)

I found I would apologize every day that I woke up and looked at myself in the mirror.

I would apologize when I was happy because I was so conditioned to think that I could only be happy when my parent was happy.

And I would apologize when others had to work hard or when things didn’t go their way…as if that was MY FAULT.

And I would apologize just out of the air for being who I was.

God, for a LONG TIME…I despised who I was.

I made a vow to myself…NEVERNEVER AGAIN…say “I’m S***y”!

Don’t Accept Their Twisted Perception Of You ~ Stop Apologizing

I find the phrase, “I’m s***y” when unmerited to be as derogatory as a racial epithet or a swear word.

Yes, no hyperbole. That is why I am blocking out the phrase.

I made a vow to myself and I KEEP my vows!

Apologizing to others because of THEIR perception means that you tear down YOUR reality! Click To Tweet

Read that again!

Every time you believe them when they say you are ugly, and you apologize in agreement…you tear down your beauty.

Every time you believe them when they say you are dumb, and you apologize in agreement…you tear down your brilliance.

Every time you believe them when they say you are not good enough, and you apologize in agreement…you tear down your greatness!

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These negative nasty people want us to apologize to them for what we are because they feel like they are cheated because of who they are.

Let me repeat that and explain it in more detail!

These negative nasty people want us to apologize to them for what we are because they feel like they are cheated because of who they are.

In their twisted deranged minds, they think that life is a game. And they see others as having it easier.

So to make things “fair” in their minds, they must tear down and bring others down to “their level”.

They must CHEAT to get ahead in life.

This is why so many narcs cheat…because they are trying to make you/us feel like you/we are NOT GOOD ENOUGH FOR THEM.

It’s a psychologically tactic they are employing!

That is how things get fair and even in their minds.

They want us to say “I’m S***y” because it is like the universe is telling them, “Yes, I know I did you wrong by making you, YOU, but hey, ‘I’m S****y’ about that….It’s not YOUR FAULT YOU ARE A LOSER.

These people have a great disgust for who they are. And they are upset with who they are.

And like the kidults they are, instead of just trying to improve themselves they want pity from others to validate the “piece of sh*t” they are!

I Challenge You To Not Say “S***y To These Losers ~ Stop Apologizing

I challenge you to NEVER apologize again to someone because of their perception of who you are. When they spew their venom out — it has less to do about YOU and more so about them.

They are trying to make their perception of you, their myopic childish perception of you, into a reality.

And when you apologize you subconsciously AGREE and ACCEPT their perception of you — which gives them the power of making you into anything they want!

Being unapologetically you is not a sign of you being a JACKASS or narcissist, it is you LOVING YOURSELF, setting up a psychological boundary and it is you saying I WILL NOT LET YOU TEAR DOWN MY REALITY!

I made a vow to myself to NEVER say “I’m S***y” because of THEIR perception of me. And it has done WONDERS for my self-esteem!

I highly recommend that you do the same!

Stop apologizing for who you are!

Struggling With C-PTSD?

I often say that living with a narcissist is like living in a war zone! This comparison may very well seem hyperbolic, but research has shown that living around narcissists can have the same effects on a person’s mind as people living in a war zone!

I wrote an article describing the “10+ Mental Illnesses Caused By Staying With Narcissists“.

These people are monsters, plain and simple.

If you are struggling with emotional flashbacks, dealing with mental and emotional battles that NO ONE but yourself seems to see and feel, and if you find it hard to get out of bed every day, you may be dealing with C-PTSD.

As great as support groups may be, or as profound as articles can be, they are no substitute for professional help. 

Sometimes the best way to heal and move forward is with therapy.

Speaking with someone and getting the hurt off your chest is a great way to unload.

Online Therapy is a site that offers visitors the chance to speak with professional therapists who will be able to help you get through your emotional and psychological battles.

If you sign up with my link, you can get 20% off your first month’s session.

Online Therapy

Reason87

I call myself the Rational Humorist. Narcs to me are cancer to humanity. The only way to beat cancer is to fight back against it.

The best way to defeat a narc is to see them as the jokes they are.

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