The smear campaign with a narcissist ends the moment this happens…
Before I answer, I think it is essential to understand how batsh*t insane and NEEDY these people are.
Narcissistic people cannot handle rejection; they cannot tolerate someone moving on with THEIR LIVES without them in it.
Narcissistic people are needy spoiled brats who need constant attention and constant validation.
“Pwease! Pwease show me I matter!”
When we refuse to give them the attention they want and CRAVE, like the addicts they are, they are then forced to get our attention ANY WAY THEY CAN!
Just like a 7-year-old or 8-year-old draws on the wall to get mommy and daddies attention (they will do something terrible), so too will these narcissistic kidults smear campaign us, draw on the thoughts and minds of others, to get our attention.
They will try and drag us down and humiliate us because that is their only way of getting attention!
They are such losers!
Note: I have been published in a book called “Empathic Warriors Survival Stories“. If you are looking for a bit of inspiration feel free to give this book a read.
When Does The Smear Campaign Stop?
The smear campaign will stop the moment you simply up and leave them.
Once you walk completely and entirely out of their lives, the smear campaign will end.
And why is this?
They may continue to trash you behind your back, but if you have no connection with them anymore, if you have no reason to be in their life, if you are 1000% okay with them smearing you to people YOU DO NOT CARE ABOUT…all their effort will be for nothing!
They will waste their time and life smearing you when you spend your life living it drama-free and happily without these sad pathetic clowns and losers in it!
Nothing shows someone how worthless they are then, but for them to try and smear you and you merely NOT GIVING A FLIP!
Imagine how you feel when you try and tell them how much it hurts for them to talk badly about you, and they give you a blank, emotionless stare.
The feeling you have of hurt and betrayal that they can hurt you and not care is the same feeling they will have when they smear you, and you go on about your life as if they don’t matter.
It is essential to learn how to value your own opinion of yourself over what fools, enablers, and naysayers think of you!
It is a sad revelation to end up on your deathbed and to, at the final moment, realize how much time you wasted caring about what people who do nothing with their loves thought of you!
Struggling With C-PTSD?
I often say that living with a narcissist is like living in a war zone! This comparison may very well seem hyperbolic, but research has shown that living around narcissists can have the same effects on a person’s mind as people living in a war zone!
I wrote an article describing the “10+ Mental Illnesses Caused By Staying With Narcissists“.
These people are monsters, plain and simple.
If you are struggling with emotional flashbacks, dealing with mental and emotional battles that NO ONE but yourself seems to see and feel, and if you find it hard to get out of bed every day, you may be dealing with C-PTSD.
As great as support groups may be, or as profound as articles can be, they are no substitute for professional help.
Sometimes the best way to heal and move forward is with therapy.
Speaking with someone and getting the hurt off your chest is a great way to unload.
Online Therapy is a site that offers visitors the chance to speak with professional therapists who will be able to help you get through your emotional and psychological battles.
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