Narcissism and The Inferiority Complex
“Hatred is the coward’s revenge for being intimidated.”― George Bernard Shaw
Before I had heard of the name “narcissist,” I always assumed that when people hated me, when they were snarky, rude, or upset at me, it was because I had done something unintentionally to them that set them off.
I would often find people rolling their eyes, saying snide, snarky comments to me, and making my time whenever I was around them as NEEDLESSLY as difficult as possible.
Because of this, I had assumed it was something I did.
“Did I not say hi?“
“No! I did say “hi” to everyone.”
“Did I not smile?“
“No! I smiled at everyone when I said, ‘hi.'”
“Maybe they thought I was smirking.”
“But, this is how I smile.”
“Hmm…what was it that I did.”
I use to (“use to” being the operative words here) think I was the one at fault.
But as I started to read more books on human behavior, with “The Sane Society” by Eric Fromm being the book that woke me up and freed me from “The Narcissistic Matrix,” I realized it is NOT ME…it is everyone else that is wrong.
And as narcissistic a statement this may sound, please read on and allow me to elucidate.
Remember this…if you are receiving unjust hatred and harm at the hands of other people whom you have never done anything to, it is not YOU that is the problem…it is them.
- 1 Narcissism and The Inferiority Complex
- 1.1 The Hate You Receive
- 1.2 You Are Not Worthless: Narcissism and The Inferiority Complex
- 1.3 Let Them Play The Victim…You Be A VICTOR IN LIFE: Narcissism and The Inferiority Complex
- 1.4 Struggling With C-PTSD?
Narcissism and The Inferiority Complex
Hatred (and in this article, I am referring hatred to jealousy and envy) is an emotion of inferior minded individuals.
Stop and think about this, what highly successful person who has a loving family and good friends, hates those around them?
Happy and successful people don’t do that.
They don’t feel a need to trample on others to stay ahead of life.
And those who do this do not have superior ways of thinking.
Superior minded people lift others.
Inferior minded people tear down others.
Superior minded people seek to help others see the greatness that is them.
Inferior minded people seek to blind others to the greatness that is in them.
Superior minded people love helping others.
Inferior minded people want others to help them with all things in life.
Narcissistic people have an inferiority complex.
And it is undeniable once you stop looking at them with emotions and start looking at them with reason.
Narcs are kidults, people who have never grown up.
This is evident in how they throw temper tantrums, how they lie to get what they want. How they get others to do their dirty deeds to keep their hands cleans.
These people are massively scared of responsibility and accountability.
In their kidult minds, they need the world to bend to their looney toon ways of thinking and behaving because they are just too scared, fragile and weak to change and rise above in the ways of the reasonable world.
The Hate You Receive
The hate that you receive from the narc and their legion of fools is their way of attacking you.
And you may be wondering why they are attacking you when you have done NOTHING TO THEM.
And the answer is because you make them feel less than.
Narcs, and flying monkeys, know at their very core…THEY ARE NOTHING SPECIAL.
They know that no matter how hard they try, they will never be good enough.
This is why they cheat.
This is why they lie, manipulate, conspire, gossiping, spread rumors, character assassinate.
In their minds, “I can NEVER be like you, but I can make you LIKE ME.“
They get great pleasure from destroying the beauty and greatness that is in us.
And they do this because they feel inferior.
When you smile, it shows them what happiness is. And narcs hate it because they will never experience genuine joy.
When you succeed in your dreams, it shows them what a nightmare of a life they live.
When you are with them, it reminds them every day that you will leave them if you saw who they truly were.
They walk around with a mask ALL THEIR LIVES because they know underneath if anyone saw who they were, they would leave them ASAP.
You Are Not Worthless: Narcissism and The Inferiority Complex
The devaluing stage is typical amongst these people. They do this because they can devalue you; most likely, you will try and work hard to make them see your worth.
They love this.
And they love to see someone so amazing NEED THEM IN THEIR LIFE.
Nothing hurts these losers more than but to be discarded and than to move on with your life as if they never existed in it.
TRUST ME ON THIS!
I have been discarded by many narcs, and when I move on with my life as if I never met them, this crushes their ego.
There were many stories I would hear from people who were neutral to me about how they talk badly about me and how much they HATE ME because I don’t think about them.
I promise you that if you been discarded or “replaced’ that the best thing is to keep going on about your life.
It shows the narc that they aren’t as important in your life as THEY THINK THEY ARE.
By continuing with your life, you not only improve yourself and get back to the amazement that is YOU, but you also, at the same time, reaffirm to the narc HOW INFERIOR and WORTHLESS they are.
They are children. And much like a child who wants mommy and daddy’s attention, they will do anything to get it.
And unfortunately, most narcs and their legion of fools do the nastiest and wicked things to get your attention.
You have to learn how to change your perspective about them.
Instead of seeing them talking wrong about you, see it as them crying and yelling like a toddler for mommy or daddy to come, “PICK THEM UP.”
Instead of thinking, they are trying to take your house, kids, ex-lover, or friends away from you. See them as the “bully” on the beach who goes around kicking down other kids’ sandcastles.
Why do they do that because they know, of their volition and skill, they could never build a sandcastle?
So if they can’t do it, no one else should either.
Now, this does not mean to let them get away with it.
If they take the house or any other possessions, STAY FOCUSED, and keep doing you.
Get a new house, get new possessions, make sure that when you are with your kids that you have an intermediate to help you pick up the kids.
But always remain YOU.
They try and take all your stuff because they think by taking them, they are taking YOU.
Show them you can always have more and better stuff WITHOUT THEM IN YOUR LIFE.
Let Them Play The Victim…You Be A VICTOR IN LIFE: Narcissism and The Inferiority Complex
“I believe that there’s no improvement if you have an inferiority complex and victim mentality.” ― Kim Namjoon
The last laugh is the best laugh.
Let these losers WASTE their life away, HATING you for THEIR OWN INFERIORITY.
Let them waste this gift called life.
Stay focused on improving who you are.
Trust me; your continued self-improvement will hurt them in far more ways than beating them up will ever do.
By simply improving yourself, you show them and reveal to their legions of fools that YOU…ARE…THE…SUPERIOR PERSON.
Struggling With C-PTSD?
I often say that living with a narcissist is like living in a war zone! This comparison may very well seem hyperbolic, but research has shown that living around narcissists can have the same effects on a person’s mind as people living in a war zone!
I wrote an article describing the “10+ Mental Illnesses Caused By Staying With Narcissists“.
These people are monsters, plain and simple.
If you are struggling with emotional flashbacks, dealing with mental and emotional battles that NO ONE but yourself seems to see and feel, and if you find it hard to get out of bed every day, you may be dealing with C-PTSD.
As great as support groups may be, or as profound as articles can be, they are no substitute for professional help.
Sometimes the best way to heal and move forward is with therapy.
Speaking with someone and getting the hurt off your chest is a great way to unload.
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